Things You Can Do That Are Just Plain Attractive
Ever wondered how some people can be effortlessly attractive? It could be something as small as a smile or a comment they made, or maybe it's their voice or how they present themselves. Either way, there's no secret involved—except for maybe this list of tips. Here are 20 things you can do that can make you more attractive.
1. Smiling
This might sound simple, but sometimes a smile can go a long way. Not only can it make you seem more approachable and friendly, your smile is one that's unique to you and shows others your personality.
2. Genuine Kindness
Sure, you can act kind and seem nice on the surface, but most people can probably sniff out a bad egg if you're "fake." Instead, being genuinely kind makes it easier to make new friends, meet new people, and keep healthy relationships with the people around you.
3. Helping Others
Similar to being genuinely kind, helping others also makes you attractive. Whether it's as simple as picking up something that someone dropped, making sure an elderly person crosses the street safely, or just standing up for a friend, these actions show that you care about others.
4. Eye Contact
Maintaining eye contact is hard sometimes—that's totally understandable. Maybe you're at a job interview, or you've mustered up the courage to chat up your crush, there are situations where looking into someone's eyes is hard. We're not saying you have to stare into people's souls when they're talking, but a little eye contact can make you seem more confident and shows that you're paying attention.
5. Speaking With Confidence
Again, there are situations where you might be so anxious you stumble over your words. While it's okay to stutter or trip up when speaking, don't focus on it. Take a deep breath, keep your head up, and say what you need to say.
6. Taking Initiative
Taking the initiative or demonstrating good leadership also makes you attractive. It means that you're comfortable taking the reins and shouldering responsibility, both of which don't come easy for many people.
7. Active Listening
You might be wondering what being a good listener entails. For us, it's when you don't interrupt (unless absolutely necessary), maintain good eye contact, and show through your responses that you’re paying attention. If you ever change the subject or start blabbering about yourself after someone has spilled their heart to you… that's not hot.
8. Not Afraid To Say Sorry
Don't mistake this with saying sorry all the time, which could make you seem like a people-pleaser. Instead, we mean that you're not afraid of apologizing when you're in the wrong. Someone who admits their faults (and doesn't blame others or stays silent) is always attractive.
9. Expressing Gratitude
On top of knowing when to say sorry, it's also attractive when you thank people. That might sound odd, but showing others your gratitude and verbally expressing your appreciation is, well, much appreciated.
10. Good Posture
Who knew that sitting or standing straight could be so important? But it is, and your posture can indicate a lot about how confident you are. Someone who's slouched over all the time might seem more timid and closed off, whereas someone who stands with their shoulders squared will appear more self-assured and poised.
11. Patience
No, snapping at someone for not hearing you the first time isn't attractive. On the other hand, being patient and understanding is. The next time someone asks you to repeat yourself or you're asked to wait for something, keep your cool.
12. Good Hygiene & Grooming Habits
You might have seen articles saying it's okay to not shower every day, but no, please do. While the occasional skip is fine, like if you're particularly zapped of energy after a long day of work, good hygiene and grooming habits instantly make you more attractive.
13. Teasing (And Knowing When Is Too Much)
Knowing how to push someone's buttons in the right way, and just enough, is a skill. If you tease someone so much to a point where it starts to be disrespectful and they call you out, stop.
14. Respecting Boundaries
Building on the last point about teasing, understanding people's boundaries and respecting them are amazing traits to have. After all, everyone has their limits and it never feels good when someone goes too far.
15. Willing To Learn (And Make Mistakes)
Intelligence is undoubtedly attractive, but so is a willingness to learn. It shows that you're eager to absorb different types of information instead of trying to be a know-it-all. Plus, not being afraid of making mistakes also indicates you understand that it's those blips that help you grow.
16. Being Ambitious
What can we say? Working hard to achieve your dreams is attractive. Of course, there also needs to be a balance; it's not so great nor healthy to have a one-track mind on, say, making money 24/7. But being ambitious and pushing yourself to meet your goals are good traits to have.
17. Not Afraid To Show Vulnerability
Everybody has their off days, or weeks, or months. It's what makes us human. Our vulnerability doesn't define us; it shows that we're not invincible and that we get knocked down sometimes. That's why there's just something so charming about people who don't keep their emotions bottled up.
18. Confidence
There's an art to being confident without coming off as arrogant or full of yourself. As we've mentioned, little actions like good posture, being kind, or taking initiative are all traits that will make you appear more confident. Other things, like easily losing your patience or always saying sorry, won't.
19. Having Passions & Hobbies
When you're passionate about something, your eyes light up when talking about it. And that intensity and love you have for that thing, whether it's a hobby or your favorite band, is beautiful. After all, those different passions you have makes you who you are in your own unique way.
20. Being Yourself
This goes without saying: you're most attractive when you're just yourself. Even when you think you're rambling, or you sound too dorky, or you can't fix that one cowlick your hair inevitably does in the morning—you're you in all your glory, and you're amazing just the way you are. (Alexa, play Bruno Mars.)
