Smooth Opener
When it comes to dating apps, it can be hard to form real connections. It seems like women have millions of options, which makes standing out nearly impossible. However, here are 20 opening lines with proven success rates, guaranteed to level up your dating game.
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1. Pick a Picture
Everyone loves to talk about themselves, and most people are super critical of their own photos. That’s why a lot of men often pick a photo from a woman’s profile and send it to her asking for context. Try opening with, “So which one is your favorite picture, and why is it this one?”
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2. Praise the Dog
“You’re pretty cute and all, but your dog just stole my heart.” Everyone loves their pets, and bringing up the dog or cat in a profile photo gets you one step closer to that all-too-desirable date. Compliment her pet and tell her how excited you are to meet them.
3. Truths and a Lie
Starting with a basic “Hello” can be so boring. Dive into the fun stuff instead with a game of two truths and a lie. This not only lets you get to know one another but shows her how much fun the two of you can have.
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4. Would You Rather
“Would you rather get a million dollars deposited into your bank account, or $50 deposited into everyone’s bank account?” Not only is this a fun way to start a conversation, but women will enjoy the casual atmosphere you provide through a silly scenario.
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5. Hot Take
“What’s your most controversial opinion?” is another opener to heat things up in a good way. Everyone has their beliefs, and women will be more than happy to talk about their thoughts. Just be sure not to get into a debate.
6. Flattery Will Get You Far
“I have no idea what pickup line to use on someone who gets as many matches as you.” This is a cute way to flatter the other person. The best part is it's pretty low effort, and you can easily use it on multiple people without having to investigate their entire profile.
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7. Make Her Laugh
“What’s a nice person like you doing in a hellscape like this?” Not everything needs to be so serious, a small joke to lighten the mood will have her feeling open and comfortable. Not only can the two of you share your dating woes, but you can learn to laugh together too.
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8. Picture Over Words
“Quick, tell me your life story solely in emojis.” This may prove to be quite a puzzle to decipher, but every girl appreciates a silly and intuitive opener. Not only does she get to share things about herself, but she’ll always remember how unique your approach was.
9. Self-Depreciation
“Are you interested in lowering your standards and going on a date with me?” Confidence is key, but a little bit of self-deprecation will amuse any woman. Hopefully, she’ll respond by talking you up, but even if she decides to play along, this is a great way to get things started.
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10. Send a GIF
Sometimes you can say so much without a single word. In today’s modern era, a carefully crafted GIF is all it takes to get the conversation going. Be sure to glance at her profile to make sure you send something relevant, perhaps from a show she likes.
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11. Weekend Plans
Sometimes keeping it simple is the best approach. Just ask her, “How was your weekend?” and let the conversation flow. This is a great way to learn about the person’s hobbies, and you can take it a step further by asking her to leave her next weekend open for a date.
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12. Choose Your Own Adventure
Sometimes women prefer controlling the conversation, in that case, give her a list of opener options to choose from. “Would you prefer a dad joke, compliment, or hot take?” This way she can pick whatever approach suits her tastes. Just be sure you have follow-ups at the ready.
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13. Guided Questions
“Should we hit up a movie on Sunday or kick it with coffee at the park?” Giving her fixed options might make it easier to get the ball rolling. Lots of people are busy in their day-to-day lives and may feel too pressured to come up with open-ended answers off the bat.
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14. It's in the Stars
Not to be stereotypical, but lots of women enjoy star signs, horoscopes, and all that fun stuff. Indulge in her interests by asking her, “What’s your star sign?” Be sure to Google your compatibility and give her a full report afterward.
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15. Ask About Her Interests
After a bit of profile sleuthing, ask her about their favorite book or movie recommendation. This lets them express their opinions while sharing information about themselves. You can easily shift this toward a date by asking her to accompany you the next time you go book shopping.
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16. Be Controversial
“Our entire dating future depends on this—do you put pineapple on pizza?” Express a controversial opinion of your own and let her reaction lead the way. Just be sure to keep it fun and light while avoiding serious topics.
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17. Music Soothes the Soul
“What’s your theme song?” is another fun opener that lets her talk about her tastes in music. Music is so versatile and unique, and bonding over a love of a specific genre or artist will bring the two of you closer than ever. You can even use this opener to lead into plans for a concert date.
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18. Honeymoon Goals
“So where am I taking you for the honeymoon?” may come across as presumptuous at first, but some women will appreciate the humor and may even give you a serious answer. This opener shows them that you’re silly but have your eyes on the future.
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19. You Want to Believe
Sometimes diving into a totally random but interesting topic is the perfect way to get the two of you talking. “Do you believe in aliens?” or “Have you ever seen a ghost?” are harmless topics that can lead to deep conversations.
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20. It's Simply Meant to Be
“This is going to sound crazy, but a psychic just told me I’m going to fall in love with a woman named Jane.” Of course, replace the name with that of the girl you’re talking to. Either way, an opener that brings up fate and destiny is another surefire way to manifest the love life of your dreams.
